Self-improvement to get more – Part 2 of 3
Posted on 29th June 2015 by Iain Littlejohn
In part 2 of our mini-series of posts we continue to look at your self-improvement. Why? Because looking great for your partner, both physically and mentally, is a great way to turn her on towards you.
Words: Jeremy Parker 29/10/2013
This week we’re looking at self-improvement – your self-improvement. Why? Because looking great for your partner, both physically and mentally (the mentally bit will make sense when you read the posts!) is a great way to turn her on towards you. Yesterday we started by covering off six personal grooming suggestions, and today we continue these…
Self-improvement tip No. 7 – Get some exercise
Aren’t exercising at all? Or just doing a little bit? Then get exercising or get going with some more. Why? Because it’s good for your head and your bod, and your partner will more than likely be impressed, that’s why.
Better still exercise with your partner…
Self-improvement tip No. 8 – Go get Esquire
Esquire magazine to be precise, or GQ for that matter. Why? Because there are regularly style and grooming tips, that’s why, and quite honestly you might just need some… Getting yourself out of the worn jeans or dodgy tracksuit look will only help get your partner more switched on towards you – think “oooooooo”, rather than her saying “oh”.
Now I’ll admit that not all of the style suggestions in Esquire or GQ will be for you… you might take a look at that yellow jumper or those white shoes that they’re suggesting are the best thing for you to be stapling to your bod next season, and wonder if they’ve lost the plot, but there are also some good practical ideas in there for those of us that can’t pull that sort of madness off.
I’d also suggest starting slowly, don’t order a skip one day, ditch all of your old clothes into it, and then immediately go out and spend $4,000 on an entirely new wardrobe, because your partner will more than likely think that you’ve had a midlife crisis. Instead get yourself a few new pieces at a time and work them into what you’ve currently got, ditching the real awful stuff starting in priority order of awfulness.
This doesn’t have to cost you a fortune either. All you’ve got to do is to keep yourself looking good for your partner, even if it’s as simple as a clean t-shirt and a nice pair of jeans that fit you well and that don’t hang round your bum. Just be smart and stylish. And for goodness sake – do please be brave and make the effort to chuck out the pants with the big holes in!
Self-improvement tip No. 9 – Rubbish hairdresser? Go ditch them, find a goodun
If you’ve been stuck with the same old barber for the last 20 something years then is it perhaps time to funk up a bit? Perhaps try asking your current hairdresser for something a bit different, or go browse the magazine rack in your local newsagent and look for the magazines with the word “hair” in the title. Browse through one of these and you’ll more than likely spot a load of possible hairstyles that you could go for. Can’t stand that idea? Then go browse the web, visit www.thehairstyler.com or search using a term such as “celebrity hairstyles”, you’d be amazed what sites are out there, choose the male celebs section and reel back in wonder! There are styles to suit all ages. Personally I’d advise avoiding the 90’s Hugh Grant look though.
If your current barber just isn’t going to do the business then maybe it’s time to try a change… perhaps you need to go to one of those places that require you to book an appointment. It’ll cost you more money, but you’ll find it a lot easier to relax when discussing what you want from them style wise, ie they’ll have one of those consultation things with you before attacking your hair with scissors. If you’ve seen something you liked the look of in that hair magazine you plucked up the courage to buy, or there’s a style on the web you’ve seen – then take it along. It’ll be a good place to start the consultation. Remember to pay good attention to how they style your hair at the end of the session so that you can repeat it daily until your next visit.
If ridicule from your mates at your new style is a concern for you then you might like to ask the hairdresser to start the change in your hairstyle slowly, and to gradually make the change to the look you are ultimately going for over a series of appointments, rather than in one fell swoop.
Self-improvement tip No. 10 – Hairy nose
Sort your nasal and ear hair – it’s that simple. If you’ve got nasal hair growing way out beyond your nostrils, or if you are struggling to hear what’s going on in the world because your ear hair is fuzzing it all up, then do yourself a favour and buy yourself one of those hygienic hair trimmers from your local health and beauty stores – (a) they won’t break the bank, and more importantly (b) they will take years off you and (c) your partner will more than likely be impressed that you are taking care of your appearance.
Self-improvement tip No. 11 – Be Self-Assured
One way to get or stay seriously attractive to your partner is to be a self-assured man, who is: secure in his identity; and his place in the world; and who treats his partner in the right way. It can only help your partner to be turned on by you if you are confident and self-assured.
So how do you go about this then?
Self-improvement tip No. 12 – Nee nah, nee nah
If you’ve got eyebrows that meet in the middle then get yourself a police escort to the salon super-quick to get that middle bit waxed out right NOW. If you think that those eyebrows need sorting then step way outside of your comfort zone and get yourself an appointment at your local beauty salon, they can start with some small changes and gradually work up to eyebrow nirvana. While you’re there perhaps try a facial as well. It’s not just for girls and your partner will doubtless be impressed with the fact that your feminine side does occasionally make an appearance too and that you are looking after yourself.
Phew, more bombardment on a personal front today, but you’ll be glad to know that we are done. Tomorrow we’ve got the final part of this mini-series, and we’ll be ending with eight tips looking at…